I've made an observation:
When other parents offer advice about what to do with your children, it is often phrased "Well, we did X with my kids and it worked great. Look how awesome they are!"
When other parents offer advice about what NOT to do with your children, it's often phrased as "My neighbor did X with their kids, and now their kids are in jail for selling crack."
No one ever says "We did X with our kids, and boy, was that the wrong thing to do."
Just an observation. . .